thoughtless

i need enlightenment on... :
is it always easier for pple to comment abt others before commenting abt themselves?
is it confidence, arrogance or insecurity dat makes us speak ill of others?
why do pple make unnecessary remarks especially at times when it is totally uncalled for?
is there something called self-control inside each individual?
if yes, why dont pple practice it?
why do pple follow their instincts sometimes? (their gut feel)
why should friends be taken for granted?
why do some friends allow themselves to be taken for granted?

i think, that even though sometimes, tempers dont fly does not necessarily mean there is no temper at all. it is jus dormant. it is a choice one makes to not get angry or say things out. but that does not mean dat it should be taken for granted isnt it?

sometimes, somethings, arent always the way it seems.